Complaining Vs. Honesty

Sometimes, I mistakenly think it’s wrong to share about unpleasant things in my life. It can be anything from not mentioning that I slept poorly, to not sharing about difficult schoolwork, to not opening up about a question I’m struggling with. There’s a myriad of reasons, depending on the matter. I just don’t want to be any kind of complainer, I don’t want people to feel sorry for me, or I don’t want to burden people with my issues.

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

But telling someone about the hard things in my life is okay! First of all, keeping things to myself can actually be dishonest. Second, the Bible tells us that Christians are a family. We are to bear one another’s burdens.

Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do. – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

The spirit in which we share those burdens is important – we definitely don’t want to be whiny or self-centered. But thinking that I can handle everything and not tell anyone about my troubles isn’t right. God is my foremost confidant; he has also surrounded me with fellow Christians who can uplift me. I’m far from having everything figured out, and God knows that. He and those he has placed around me will help me if I let them! Even though I haven’t figured everything out, I know this: much as I try, I can’t go it alone.

The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles. – Psalms 34:17
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. – Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)

Do you find it difficult to share your troubles? 

19 Comments Add yours

  1. Esther W. says:

    Wonderful post; thank you!!

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    1. I’m glad it was a blessing to you!

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  2. T. R. Noble says:

    It’s difficult depending on the person and what I need to say. I’m really glad you shared this. Thanks for the reminder!!

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    1. I’m happy it spoke to you!

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  3. This is great!
    I think when I was younger I tended to keep things more to myself. But then God allowed me to go through such a fiery trial that he made me realize there was no way I could do it without other people

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    1. Amen! It’s such a blessing to have strong Christians around us, isn’t it?


  4. Dear one, you have been gifted with unusual strength and independence, which are wonderful traits. But I’m glad you realize that you can indeed share your burdens with those who love you and can help you.

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    1. Thank you. 😊
      This comment went to spam as well! That’s weird!

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  5. With me your topic is situational. Of course, we can’t hide things from God, so heck, we might as well let him know how we feel, right? But with speaking to others: there are times in which I don’t yet really want input from other people, but it’s lovely to know that they’re ready when and If I do feel comfortable to speak about the problem. When someone is hurting, sometimes the best thing we can do is honor them, allow them their space, and pledge our prayers for them. — Mike

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    1. That is all true! Thank you for sharing.


  6. Heaven says:

    Beautiful post, Shae! A lot of times, I do find it difficult to share my troubles. Sometimes, I just don’t feel comfortable sharing how I feel. However, I would say that it is easier telling God what I’m feeling and being more vulnerable. But, I also should trust those who He has put in my life, fellow believers. ❀

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    1. Definitely! God is so easy to talk to 😊❀

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  7. Liam Andres says:

    I too struggle with this! I would much rather listen to someone else talking about their own hardships and be there to aid them than be speaking to someone else about what I’m going through. And then knowing when and with whom it is appropriate to do so is challenging as well. So I often keep what I’m going through to myself. Of course I pour out my heart to God, but it’s rare for another human to hear of it. But God has been leading me to form a small group with a few brothers in Christ here for that purpose.

    I love reading your posts on this blog, every time. XP

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    1. I totally understand!
      Well, thank you. 😊 I’m sorry I haven’t had a chance to read your last couple posts!


      1. Liam Andres says:

        I know!

        Nah! It’s fine, lol!

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  8. Amen! Then again how the congregation of Christ has become so distant from each other and you don’t know who to trust with telling your problems to, I guess that’s why in various ways it can become a burden to one. I can testify about that. I do find it difficult at times according to what I want to share but God has placed my mom and a few trustworthy sisters in Christ that I share them with but most times I share it with God and I love it that way best. ❀ blessings & grace. Very encouraging post!

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    1. Yes, my family was just talking about that sort of thing last night. I have some good Christian friends I can rely on, though!

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      1. Yup it’s the truth and it shouldn’t be that way at all if we say we are one in Christ. That’s good bless God, so do I but a few, so bless God for that!

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