Something I Learned This Christmas

This Christmas, I thought a lot about the fact that I will only have a few more Christmases living at home. That idea made me very sad. As I thought more about it and tried to figure out why the idea made me feel sad, I discovered something about myself.

I learned that I’m not afraid of the future. No matter what God has me do, be it mission work (as I currently believe my future holds) or anything else, I’m ready for that. God will equip me to do what he wants me to do, and I’m excited to see where he leads! Fearing the future wasn’t what was bothering me.

So why did the thought of leaving home upset me? I figured it out: to be honest, I am going to miss my family a lot. I have been blessed with a wonderful childhood and I love my family very much. Ever since I was little, goodbyes have been hard for me.

A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; – Ecclesiastes 3:4

However, the Holy Spirit gave me peace. Yes, I will leave home and I will miss my family. But most people have gone through the same thing. It will be okay!

Also, I was reminded to appreciate all the time I have with my family. I’m not going to waste it. Every day is precious, and that fact should be at the forefront of my mind. 

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth:
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
for brethren to dwell together in unity!
– Psalm 133:1

I love you guys. 

What do/did you fear about leaving home?

22 Comments Add yours

  1. Love you too, sweet girl. I’m so glad you are not afraid of what God has for you in future – but I will miss you! You, Rowan, and Aidan are a part of me.

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    1. I’ll miss you too! You are a part of me as well.

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  2. missusmux says:

    Your family a blessed to have you! What a rich heritage you possess. The very thought of separation can bring uncertainty, fear, sadness. It can also make the heart grow fonder! No doubt you will return home for Christmas and other special events and they’ll be even sweeter times. I enjoy your thoughtful reflection and expression in your blogs.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. 😊

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  3. The first time I left home was to move into my college dorm. I was a bundle of nerves and scared that first day! What helped me was realizing that everyone around me was nervous, too, and as the days passed, we helped each other more and more, and friendships began to develop.

    I’ve realized over time that it is okay to be scared or sad or angry– it’s part of being human. What we do with the emotion is the key point, never forgetting that God is with us, always.

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    1. Amen! Thank you for your wise words.


  4. I have thought about this a lot. I am moving forward, as everyone is, and I am noticing that it’s a major shift. I have been adapting to other forms of change in my life by accepting the current circumstance and working to look at the positive aspects of these changes. New beginnings, new friendships etc. Focusing on what makes the change exciting makes adapting seem a little less scary. Plus, it’s always nice to know that you can always go back home. ❤ Blessings!

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    1. It’s wise to look at the positive side. Amen!

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  5. Kevin says:

    I couldn’t wait to get away. As if my life was horrible. It wasn’t but it took getting away to realize how much I love my family.

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    1. Thank you for sharing that, Kevin. The situation must have been very hard.

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      1. Kevin says:

        That’s the thing. It wasn’t the greatest but not as bad as some. Needed to get away to see the parts that were good.

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  6. Paul Anwuzia says:

    Sometimes the fear of the unknown kicks in. Especially, during times of major changes. These concerns are normal. What matters is that we should always look at the positive side, no matter how slim it may be. And, when everything else seem negative in our lives, we should dwell in the ever-positive side of Christ.
    I’m telling you as I’m telling myself, because, honestly, I have the same worries.

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      1. Paul Anwuzia says:

        You’re welcome…

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  7. T. R. Noble says:

    When I left for college, I didn’t really have fear. I was excited and knew I needed independence. But getting married and moving out of state, I was excited and knew I needed the independence to grow. I just didn’t know what the Lord would do with where I was planted. That was the fear for me.

    It still happens sometimes. But gradually God was showing me my roots were in my hometown, which I am very fond of, or the people in it. He blessed me with treasures of memories, and new ones to still make when I visit. But HE IS MY HOME, and that was one of the most comforting lessons He has ever given me against fear. My roots are in Him.

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    1. Amen! What a great lesson to learn. Thanks!

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  8. Liam Andres says:

    I know I’m late, but better late than never, right?

    Interestingly enough, something similar happened to me this season. But it was a few weeks before Christmas.

    I too believe I’ll be in the mission field. I’ve thought possibly so for a very long time, but did not have it confirmed. I also have had the ‘suspicion’ that it would be with a family, in a somewhat dangerous country. And this season, God confronted me with a fear I had about it. A fear of an inability to protect my family in that place. And He told me to trust Him, for He cares even more than I ever could, and even if it _seems_ He has failed to protect, He is still good.

    Through that He not only overcame my fears with love, but He also confirmed in my heart that it _was_ where He wanted me, and placed a specific area on my heart.

    I leave home to go to college this upcoming fall. And through God’s speaking, I believe I know where God would have me to go. But like you said, I’m gonna miss my family. And probably, they’re gonna miss me even more. But there is rest and peace in walking in faith with God. And He is who will sustain us through it all.

    I appreciate your blog very much. It encourages me consistently. Keep up the good work, Shae!

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    1. I’ll keep praying for you! If you don’t mind my asking, where do you feel called?


      1. Liam Andres says:

        The Middle East. Specifically Turkey, but I’m not positive about that yet.

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      2. Wow, that’s wonderful.


      3. Liam Andres says:

        By the way, I did finally publish my blog. I should have forever ago, when God said to, but I only just did.

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